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28th May 2017 

Know Thyself

Therapy is an effective way of dealing with personal problems. It provides a safe environment in which to talk things over and explore your feelings in a non-judgmental setting, often impossible to find elsewhere.

Therapy works by helping you understand how your life experiences are affecting you in the present, influencing the way that you think, and the way that you relate to yourself and others.

It's not easy. We do not tell you what to do. We aim to give you choices. To explore options that you may not have considered.

Our approach is called psychodynamic, which simply means that we work together. Two psyches (minds) interacting dynamically. We are not limited by any one theory or technique. Instead we work with any and every technique that is relevant to the situation.

We are professionally qualified and experienced therapists offering help for a wide range of problems and issues. Our consulting room is conveniently situated 100 yards from Mansion House tube station.

Everything discussed with your therapist is confidential. If you are willing to be honest with yourself and prepared to work, you can change your life.


Reasons for coming to therapy:

  • Abuse
  • Addictions
  • Anxiety and Stress
  • Lack of confidence or self-esteem
  • Depression, emptiness
  • Difficulties with starting, sustaining or finishing relationships
  • Work-related problems
  • Coming to terms with losses such as bereavement, divorce or redundancy
  • Eating difficulties such as anorexia and bulimia
  • Family worries, conflicts and crises
  • Sexual dysfunction and sexual identity problems
  • Anger issues
  • Trauma
  • Phobias
  • Understanding yourself better
  • Alienation
  • Nightmares
  • Self harming
  • Suicidal thoughts


  • What next?

    To arrange an initial consultation call us on 020 7760 7541 or email us at mansionhousecounselling@gmail.com. All enquiries are treated in confidence.

    You will find further information on counselling, psychotherapy and our practice in the following pages which we hope you will find useful.


    Points to ponder before the first meeting

  • Why now? What brings you to therapy now and not 6 months ago?
  • What will successful therapy look like? Will you look different? Will you feel different? Will your life have changed, and if so, how?
  • A good therapist will be able to help you experience emotions you may not even know exist. Are you ready to begin what may turn out to be very difficult journey of self discovery?


  • Points to ponder after the first meeting

  • Is this a therapist you can come to trust given the time and opportunity?
  • Can you talk freely in the sessions?
  • Did you feel this person genuinely cares about you?
  • Remember, you hire a counsellor, and you can fire a counsellor. This is about working through your difficulties, and it is important you feel comfortable.


  • Location

    Mansion House Counselling Practice is located near Mansion House tube station on Queen Victoria Street in The City, providing Counselling and Psychotherapy in Central London within easy reach of Westminster (Buckingham Palace, Houses of Parliament and Westminster Abbey), Whitechapel (Royal London Hospital), Embankment (The South Bank Centre, The Royal National Theatre, The Hayward Gallery), Victoria, Sloane Square and Chelsea.


    About Us

    Mansion House Counselling Practice is part of a collective of experienced and qualified Counsellors and Psychotherapists in The City and Central London. We all share a common sacred respect for the human spirit in all it's forms.


    Useful Websites

  • Amnesty International - Protect the Human
    www.amnesty.org.uk

  • British Humanist Association
    humanism.org.uk/

  • Cruse Bereavement Care
    www.kc-cruse.org.uk

  • FRANK - Drug Abuse
    www.talktofrank.com

  • The Gender Trust - Gender Identity Support
    gendertrust.org.uk/

  • MIND
    www.mind.org.uk

  • NHS Direct
    www.nhsdirect.nhs.uk

  • Rape Crisis
    www.rapecrisis.org.uk

  • Refuge - Domestic Violence
    www.refuge.org.uk

  • Samaritans
    www.samaritans.org

  • Terrence Higgins Trust
    www.tht.org.uk


  • Latest Article: Trauma

    Trauma is the result of extraordinarily stressful events that shatter your sense of security. You feel helpless. The world feels dangerous. The more frightened and helpless you feel, the more likely you are to be traumatised.

    An event can lead to trauma if:
    • It happened unexpectedly
    • You were unprepared for it
    • You felt powerless to prevent it
    • It happened repeatedly
    • Someone was intentionally cruel
    • It happened in childhood

    Emotional & psychological symptoms:
    • Shock, denial, or disbelief
    • Confusion, difficulty concentrating
    • Anger, irritability, mood swings
    • Anxiety and fear
    • Guilt, shame, self-blame
    • Withdrawing from others
    • Feeling sad or hopeless
    • Feeling disconnected or numb

    Physical symptoms:
    • Insomnia or nightmares
    • Fatigue
    • Being startled easily
    • Difficulty concentrating
    • Racing heartbeat
    • Edginess and agitation
    • Aches and pains
    • Muscle tension


    Trauma recovery tip 1: Get moving
    Trauma disrupts your body’s natural equilibrium, freezing you in a state of hyper-arousal and fear. In essence, your nervous system gets “stuck.” As well as burning off adrenaline and releasing endorphins, exercise and movement can actually help your nervous system become “unstuck.”

    Try to exercise for 30 minutes or more on most days, or if it’s easier, three 10-minute spurts of exercise per day are just as good. Exercise that is rhythmic and engages both your arms and legs (eg - walking, running, swimming, dancing) works best. Stay focussed on your body and how it feels as you move. Notice the sensation of your feet hitting the ground, or the rhythm of your breathing, or the feeling of wind on your skin.


    Tip 2: Don't isolate
    Following a trauma, you may want to withdraw from others, but isolation only makes things worse. Connecting to others face to face will help you heal, so make an effort to maintain your relationships and avoid spending too much time alone.

    While you don’t have to talk about the trauma itself, it is important you have someone to share your feelings with face to face, someone who will listen attentively without judging you. Turn to a trusted family member, friend or counsellor.

    Participate in social activities, even if you don’t feel like it. Do everyday things with other people, things that have nothing to do with the traumatic experience.

    Join a support group for trauma survivors. Being with others who are facing the same problems can help reduce your sense of isolation and hearing how others cope can help inspire you in your own recovery.

    Volunteering can be a great way to challenge the sense of helplessness that often accompanies trauma. Remind yourself of your strengths and reclaim your sense of power by helping others.

    Take a class or join a club to meet new people with similar interests.


    Tip 3: Self-regulate your nervous system
    No matter how agitated, anxious, or out of control you feel, it’s important to know that you can change your arousal system and calm yourself.

    If you are feeling disoriented, confused, or upset, a quick way to calm yourself is through mindful breathing. Simply take 60 breaths, focusing your attention on each out breath.

    Sensory input. Does a specific sight, smell or taste quickly make you feel calm? Or maybe petting an animal or listening to music works to quickly soothe you? Everyone responds to sensory input a little differently, so experiment to find what works best for you.

    Staying grounded. To feel in the present and more grounded, sit on a chair. Feel your feet on the ground and your back against the chair. Look around you and pick six objects that have red or blue in them. Notice how your breathing gets deeper and calmer.

    Allow yourself to feel what you feel when you feel it. Acknowledge your feelings about the trauma as they arise and accept them.


    Tip 4: Take care of your health
    Having a healthy body can increase your ability to cope with the stress of trauma. Get plenty of sleep. After a traumatic experience, worry or fear may disturb your sleep patterns and a lack of quality sleep can exacerbate your trauma symptoms making it harder to maintain your emotional balance. Go to sleep and get up at the same time each day and aim for 7 to 9 hours of sleep each night.

    Alcohol and drugs can worsen your trauma symptoms and increase feelings of depression, anxiety, and isolation.

    Eating small, well-balanced meals throughout the day will help you keep your energy up and minimise mood swings.

    Try relaxation techniques such as meditation, yoga, or deep breathing exercises. Schedule time for activities that bring you joy such as favourite hobbies.

    Healing from trauma takes time. Be patient with the pace of recovery and remember that everyone’s response to trauma is different.











    Counsellor Mansion House
    Psychotherapy Westminster