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24th September 2017 

Know Thyself

Therapy is an effective way of dealing with personal problems. It provides a safe environment in which to talk things over and explore your feelings in a non-judgmental setting, often impossible to find elsewhere.

Therapy works by helping you understand how your life experiences are affecting you in the present, influencing the way that you think, and the way that you relate to yourself and others.

It's not easy. We do not tell you what to do. We aim to give you choices. To explore options that you may not have considered.

Our approach is called psychodynamic, which simply means that we work together. Two psyches (minds) interacting dynamically. We are not limited by any one theory or technique. Instead we work with any and every technique that is relevant to the situation.

We are professionally qualified and experienced therapists offering help for a wide range of problems and issues. Our consulting room is conveniently situated 100 yards from Mansion House tube station.

Everything discussed with your therapist is confidential. If you are willing to be honest with yourself and prepared to work, you can change your life.


Reasons for coming to therapy:

  • Abuse
  • Addictions
  • Anxiety and Stress
  • Lack of confidence or self-esteem
  • Depression, emptiness
  • Difficulties with starting, sustaining or finishing relationships
  • Work-related problems
  • Coming to terms with losses such as bereavement, divorce or redundancy
  • Eating difficulties such as anorexia and bulimia
  • Family worries, conflicts and crises
  • Sexual dysfunction and sexual identity problems
  • Anger issues
  • Trauma
  • Phobias
  • Understanding yourself better
  • Alienation
  • Nightmares
  • Self harming
  • Suicidal thoughts


  • What next?

    To arrange an initial consultation call us on 020 7760 7541 or email us at mansionhousecounselling@gmail.com. All enquiries are treated in confidence.

    You will find further information on counselling, psychotherapy and our practice in the following pages which we hope you will find useful.


    Points to ponder before the first meeting

  • Why now? What brings you to therapy now and not 6 months ago?
  • What will successful therapy look like? Will you look different? Will you feel different? Will your life have changed, and if so, how?
  • A good therapist will be able to help you experience emotions you may not even know exist. Are you ready to begin what may turn out to be very difficult journey of self discovery?


  • Points to ponder after the first meeting

  • Is this a therapist you can come to trust given the time and opportunity?
  • Can you talk freely in the sessions?
  • Did you feel this person genuinely cares about you?
  • Remember, you hire a counsellor, and you can fire a counsellor. This is about working through your difficulties, and it is important you feel comfortable.


  • Location

    Mansion House Counselling Practice is located near Mansion House tube station on Queen Victoria Street in The City, providing Counselling and Psychotherapy in Central London within easy reach of Westminster (Buckingham Palace, Houses of Parliament and Westminster Abbey), Whitechapel (Royal London Hospital), Embankment (The South Bank Centre, The Royal National Theatre, The Hayward Gallery), Victoria, Sloane Square and Chelsea.


    About Us

    Mansion House Counselling Practice is part of a collective of experienced and qualified Counsellors and Psychotherapists in The City and Central London. We all share a common sacred respect for the human spirit in all it's forms.


    Useful Websites

  • Amnesty International - Human Rights
    www.amnesty.org.uk

  • Anxiety UK
    www.anxietyuk.org.uk

  • Association of Christian Counsellors
    www.acc-uk.org

  • British Humanist Association - Non-Religious Organisation
    humanism.org.uk

  • CALM - Campaign Against Living Miserably - charity dedicated to preventing male suicide
    www.thecalmzone.net

  • Cruse Bereavement Care
    www.kc-cruse.org.uk

  • FRANK - Drug Abuse
    www.talktofrank.com

  • The Gender Trust - Gender Identity Support
    gendertrust.org.uk

  • Jewish Care - A charity that offers care and support to people in the Jewish community
    www.jewishcare.org

  • MIND - Mental Health Charity
    www.mind.org.uk

  • Muslim Counsellor & Psychotherapist Network
    www.mcapn.co.uk

  • NHS Choices
    www.nhs.uk/pages/home

  • OCD UK - Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder Charity
    www.ocduk.org

  • Rape Crisis
    rapecrisis.org.uk

  • Rape Crisis For Men And Boys
    rapecrisis.org.uk/supportformenboys

  • Refuge - Domestic Violence
    www.refuge.org.uk

  • Samaritans
    www.samaritans.org

  • Survivors UK - Male Rape And Sexual Abuse
    www.survivorsuk.org

  • Terrence Higgins Trust - HIV Charity
    www.tht.org.uk


  • Latest Article: The Shadow

    “If you hate a person, you hate something in him that is part of yourself. What isn’t part of ourselves doesn’t disturb us” - Hermann Hesse (born 2nd July 1877, died 9th August 1962)


    From infancy and through childhood and adolescence we pick up from our parents / carers both conscious and unconscious messages about what is acceptable in terms of our body, our feelings and our behaviour. All that is unacceptable is suppressed and repressed and becomes part of our shadow. We not only take in and repress what is unacceptable, we also internalise our carers’ attitudes to these unwanted qualities and characteristics of ourselves. The harsher the attitude, which may have been expressed by withdrawal of love, rejection, physical / emotional / sexual abuse, the more hostile we are to these facets of our shadow. At worst, the shadow becomes entwined with abandonment anxiety so that its emergence can really feel like a matter of life or death.

    The assimilation of the shadow, leads to self-acceptance and self-forgiveness. Grievance and blame give way to the taking of responsibility and attempts at sorting out what belongs to whom. A fierce conscience, which tends to be punitive to the self and others, can relax and personal values can be set in counterpoint to collective morality.

    As individual attention is habitually focused on the persona (social role / mask), the deeper neglected aspects of the personality continually sabotage the individual’s conscious intentions. In order to account for these frustrations, while also avoiding their true source, the shadow is conveniently projected onto other people, resulting in what can often be perceived as threatening and unfriendly circumstances.

    The first sign of shadow projection appears as a strong emotional reaction to anyone or anything in the environment. It feels impulsive and automatic, more like an unconscious reflex than a conscious, intentional response. It is this very tendency which serves as the prime indicator that the shadow is in play. By becoming aware of the people to whom the persona is positively or negatively attracted, in addition to the outwardly focused perceptions which accompany such attraction, it is possible to recognise the shadow.

    The contents of projection are the secret characteristics which the persona refuses to acknowledge. And ending this externalisation of the personal contents of consciousness is what Jung’s former mentor, Freud, was pointing to when he proclaimed, “where id was, there ego shall be”.












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