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21st February 2019 

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Therapy is an effective way of dealing with personal problems. It provides a safe environment in which to talk things over and explore your feelings in a non-judgmental setting, often impossible to find elsewhere.

Therapy works by helping you understand how your life experiences are affecting you in the present, influencing the way that you think, and the way that you relate to yourself and others.

It's not easy. We do not tell you what to do. We aim to give you choices. To explore options that you may not have considered.

Our approach is called psychodynamic, which simply means that we work together. Two psyches (minds) interacting dynamically. We are not limited by any one theory or technique. Instead we work with any and every technique that is relevant to the situation.

We are professionally qualified and experienced therapists offering help for a wide range of problems and issues. Our consulting room is conveniently situated 100 yards from Mansion House tube station.

Everything discussed with your therapist is confidential. If you are willing to be honest with yourself and prepared to work, you can change your life.


Reasons for coming to therapy:

  • Abuse
  • Addictions
  • Anxiety and Stress
  • Lack of confidence or self-esteem
  • Depression, emptiness
  • Difficulties with starting, sustaining or finishing relationships
  • Work-related problems
  • Coming to terms with losses such as bereavement, divorce or redundancy
  • Eating difficulties such as anorexia and bulimia
  • Family worries, conflicts and crises
  • Sexual dysfunction and sexual identity problems
  • Anger issues
  • Trauma
  • Phobias
  • Understanding yourself better
  • Alienation
  • Nightmares
  • Self harming
  • Suicidal thoughts


  • What next?

    To arrange a consultation call us on 020 7760 7541 or email us at [email protected]. Sessions are charged at 70 per session. Payment is by either cash or cheque at the end of each session. Concessions are available and can be discussed with your therapist.

    All enquiries are treated in confidence. You will find further information on counselling, psychotherapy and our practice in the following pages which we hope you will find useful.


    Points to ponder before the first meeting

  • Why now? What brings you to therapy now and not 6 months ago?
  • What will successful therapy look like? Will you look different? Will you feel different? Will your life have changed, and if so, how?
  • A good therapist will be able to help you experience emotions you may not even know exist. Are you ready to begin what may turn out to be very difficult journey of self discovery?


  • Points to ponder after the first meeting

  • How do you feel about your counsellor?
  • Do you feel listened to?
  • Does your counsellor understand your needs?
  • Do you feel hopeful about the future?
  • Remember, this is about working through your difficulties, and it is important that you feel comfortable.


  • Location

    Mansion House Counselling Practice is located near Mansion House tube station on Queen Victoria Street in The City, providing Counselling and Psychotherapy in Central London within easy reach of Westminster (Buckingham Palace, Houses of Parliament and Westminster Abbey), Whitechapel (Royal London Hospital), Embankment (The South Bank Centre, The Royal National Theatre, The Hayward Gallery), Victoria, Sloane Square and Chelsea.


    About Us

    Mansion House Counselling Practice is part of a collective of experienced and qualified Counsellors and Psychotherapists in The City and Central London. We all share a common sacred respect for the human spirit in all it's forms.


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    Useful Websites

  • Amnesty International - Human Rights
    www.amnesty.org.uk

  • Anxiety UK
    www.anxietyuk.org.uk

  • Association of Christian Counsellors
    www.acc-uk.org

  • British Humanist Association - Non-Religious Organisation
    humanism.org.uk

  • CALM - Campaign Against Living Miserably - charity dedicated to preventing male suicide
    www.thecalmzone.net

  • Cruse Bereavement Care
    www.kc-cruse.org.uk

  • FRANK - Drug Abuse
    www.talktofrank.com

  • The Gender Trust - Gender Identity Support
    gendertrust.org.uk

  • Jewish Care - A charity that offers care and support to people in the Jewish community
    www.jewishcare.org

  • MIND - Mental Health Charity
    www.mind.org.uk

  • Muslim Counsellor & Psychotherapist Network
    www.mcapn.co.uk

  • NHS Choices
    www.nhs.uk/pages/home

  • OCD UK - Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder Charity
    www.ocduk.org

  • Rape Crisis
    rapecrisis.org.uk

  • Rape Crisis For Men And Boys
    rapecrisis.org.uk/supportformenboys

  • Refuge - Domestic Violence
    www.refuge.org.uk

  • Samaritans
    www.samaritans.org

  • Survivors UK - Male Rape And Sexual Abuse
    www.survivorsuk.org

  • Terrence Higgins Trust - HIV Charity
    www.tht.org.uk

  • Trans Unite - Charity offering access to UK Trans Support Groups
    www.transunite.co.uk


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    Latest Article: Grief and Depression

    “I will not say ‘do not weep’, for not all tears are an evil”
    - J.R.R. Tolkien (born 3rd January 1892, died 2nd September 1973)


    The stages of mourning are universal and are experienced by everyone. It occurs in response to an individual’s sense of loss, such as the death of a valued being, human or animal, or even an individual’s own impending death. There are five stages of normal grief. They were first proposed by Elisabeth Kubler-Ross in her book “On Death and Dying”, published in 1969. The five stages do not occur in order and everyone spends a different amount of time working through each step, sometimes moving back and forth until the final stage of acceptance. Throughout each stage, a common thread of hope emerges.

    The key to understanding the stages is not to feel that you must go through each and every one of them in precise order. Instead, it is more helpful to look at them as guides in the grieving process.

    1. Denial and Isolation
    The first reaction to learning of terminal illness or death of a cherished loved one is to deny the reality of the situation. It is a normal reaction to rationalise overwhelming emotions. It is a defence mechanism that buffers the immediate shock. We block out the words and hide from the facts. This is a temporary response that carries us through the first wave of pain.

    2. Anger
    As the masking effects of denial and isolation begin to fade, reality and its pain re-emerge. We are not ready. The intense emotion is deflected from our vulnerable core, redirected and expressed as anger instead. The anger may be aimed at inanimate objects, complete strangers, friends or family. Anger may be directed at our dying or deceased loved one. Rationally, we know the person is not to be blamed. Emotionally, however, we may resent the person for causing us pain or for leaving us. We then feel guilty for being angry, and this makes us more angry.

    3. Bargaining
    The normal reaction to feelings of helplessness and vulnerability is often a need to regain control. Secretly, we may make a deal with God or our higher power in an attempt to postpone the inevitable. This is another defence to protect us from the painful reality.

    4. Depression
    Two types of depression are associated with mourning. The first one is a reaction to practical implications relating to the loss. Sadness and regret predominate this type of depression. We worry about the costs and burial. We worry that, in our grief, we have spent less time with others that depend on us. This phase may be eased by simple clarification and reassurance. We may need a bit of helpful co-operation and a few kind words. The second type of depression is more subtle and, in a sense, perhaps more private. It is our quiet preparation to separate and to bid our loved one farewell. Sometimes all we really need is a hug.

    5. Acceptance
    Reaching this stage of mourning is a gift not afforded to everyone. Death may be sudden and unexpected or we may never see beyond our anger or denial. It is not necessarily a mark of bravery to resist the inevitable and to deny ourselves the opportunity to make our peace. This phase is marked by withdrawal and calm. This is not a period of happiness and must be distinguished from depression.

    Coping with loss is a ultimately a deeply personal and singular experience, nobody can help you go through it more easily or understand all the emotions that you’re going through. But others can be there for you and help comfort you through this process. The best thing you can do is to allow yourself to feel the grief as it comes over you. Resisting it only will prolong the natural process of healing


    “The pain passes, but the beauty remains” - Pierre Auguste Renoir (born 25th February 1841, died 3rd December 1919)



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