Know ThyselfTherapy is an effective way of dealing with personal problems. It provides a safe environment in which to talk things over and explore your feelings in a non-judgmental setting, often impossible to find elsewhere.
Therapy works by helping you understand how your life experiences are affecting you in the present, influencing the way that you think, and the way that you relate to yourself and others.
It's not easy. I will not tell you what to do. I aim to give you choices. To explore options that you may not have considered.
My approach is called Psychodynamic, which simply means that we work together. I am not limited by any one theory or technique. Instead I work with any and every technique that is relevant to the situation.
I am a professionally qualified and experienced therapist offering help for a wide range of problems and issues. My consulting room is conveniently situated 100 yards from Mansion House tube station.
Everything discussed is confidential. If you are willing to be honest with yourself and prepared to work, you can change your life.
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What next?To arrange an Initial Consultation call on 020 7760 7541 or email at [email protected]. Monday to Friday sessions are charged at £100 per session. Weekend sessions are charged at £150 per session. Payment is by either cash or cheque at the end of each session. Concessions are available.
Each therapy session is a weekly 50 minute appointment between client and therapist at the same time, on the same day. The regularity and frequency of appointment is essential to the therapeutic process, so deciding to attend therapy is a commitment that will need careful consideration. The therapy process can last from a few weeks to a year or longer.
The Therapy Room and my time are reserved for you and you alone at the agreed day and time every week until your therapy ends. For this reason there is a charge of £50 for cancelled sessions. This includes planned holidays. Sessions cancelled by me are not charged.
All enquiries are treated in confidence. You will find further information on counselling, psychotherapy and my practice in the following pages which I hope you will find useful.
Points to ponder before the first meeting
Points to ponder after the first meeting
LocationMansion House Counselling Practice is located near Mansion House tube station on Queen Victoria Street in The City, providing Counselling and Psychotherapy in Central London within easy reach of Westminster (Buckingham Palace, Houses of Parliament and Westminster Abbey), Whitechapel (Royal London Hospital), Embankment (The South Bank Centre, The Royal National Theatre, The Hayward Gallery), Victoria, Sloane Square and Chelsea.
Latest Article - The Shadow“If you hate a person, you hate something in him that is part of yourself. What isn’t part of ourselves doesn’t disturb us” - Hermann Hesse (born 2nd July 1877, died 9th August 1962)
From infancy and through childhood and adolescence we pick up from our parents / carers both conscious and unconscious messages about what is acceptable in terms of our body, our feelings and our behaviour. All that is unacceptable is suppressed and repressed and becomes part of our shadow. We not only take in and repress what is unacceptable, we also internalise our carers’ attitudes to these unwanted qualities and characteristics of ourselves. The harsher the attitude, which may have been expressed by withdrawal of love, rejection, physical / emotional / sexual abuse, the more hostile we are to these facets of our shadow. At worst, the shadow becomes entwined with abandonment anxiety so that its emergence can really feel like a matter of life or death.
The assimilation of the shadow, leads to self-acceptance and self-forgiveness. Grievance and blame give way to the taking of responsibility and attempts at sorting out what belongs to whom. A fierce conscience, which tends to be punitive to the self and others, can relax and personal values can be set in counterpoint to collective morality.
As individual attention is habitually focused on the persona (social role / mask), the deeper neglected aspects of the personality continually sabotage the individual’s conscious intentions. In order to account for these frustrations, while also avoiding their true source, the shadow is conveniently projected onto other people, resulting in what can often be perceived as threatening and unfriendly circumstances.
The first sign of shadow projection appears as a strong emotional reaction to anyone or anything in the environment. It feels impulsive and automatic, more like an unconscious reflex than a conscious, intentional response. It is this very tendency which serves as the prime indicator that the shadow is in play. By becoming aware of the people to whom the persona is positively or negatively attracted, in addition to the outwardly focused perceptions which accompany such attraction, it is possible to recognise the shadow.
The contents of projection are the secret characteristics which the persona refuses to acknowledge. And ending this externalisation of the personal contents of consciousness is what Jung’s former mentor, Freud, was pointing to when he proclaimed, “where id was, there ego shall be”.